Archive for October, 2007

Today (October 10) is my wedding anniversary. My husband and I have been married for nine years, and we have two beautiful children.

A lot has happened over the past year, since our eighth anniversary. Our lives have gone through a number of changes, some of them stressful. I quit a full-time job away from home and started doing writing and editing contract work from home. I started a publishing company and self-published a book. My husband has continued to look for accounting work. Our children are growing up (and our daughter has even more activities this year). We have been trying to get healthy, but it has been difficult, and we have both struggled over eating habits and finding time to exercise.

Life has been overwhelming!

Another stressor in our relationship involves spiritual differences. I am a Christian, and my husband would probably call himself agnostic. Having such different life values makes for some difficult situations, to put it mildly. Jesus said He came to create division – between mother and son and sibling and spouse (Luke 12:49-53). With such different worldviews, my husband and I have had times where we’ve struggled to get along – certainly, where we’ve struggled to agree on various issues (both daily and larger scale).

Still, we have hung in, through it all, together. We have committed to loving each other, and we stand by that commitment and that love. We recognize there are differences between us, and we know not everyone is the same. We each have different personalities, outlooks, skills, etc. We can cherish each other despite (and, sometimes even because of) our differences.

My husband has trouble understanding my devotion to Christ, but he supports my desire to pray and read the Bible and attend church. He supports my viewpoint even if he does not share it. He is a wonderful father, always there for our children, playing with them and taking care of them. He doesn’t argue against me taking our children to church or saying prayers with them. Sometimes I wish he would join us at church but all in good time. I keep praying for his salvation and for our children to grow up learning about God. I pray for our family, and I trust in God. God will work everything out according to His purpose and His timing. 

My husband and I love each other, even through our struggles. We try to respect one another, despite our differences. It’s not always easy, but we are in it for the long haul, and we are blessed to have each other. I thank God for my husband, my children, our wonderful family. I thank God for the nine years we have been married, the time we dated before that, and the years we knew each other as friends in college, high school, and junior high. We have been friends for a long time, and that has helped our love stand the test of time. That, and God’s grace, of course!

To my husband, Ray: Thank you for standing by me and supporting me and loving me. I love you so much, and I pray that we can grow closer as we approach 10 years of marriage. Happy Anniversary, honey!


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